Are You Capable Of Love?

It is hard to imagine that a marriage without love. Needless to say, without love, a marriage relationship would be meaningless and purposeless. There is no single person who could get married without love.

No doubt we all have our own definition of love. Love can be sweet to you but harsh for me. To some love is concern, to some it is compassion and to some others it is caring and so forth. It doesn't matter what one's own concept of love, one should agree that it is essential to devote his/her energy and time to the one he/she loves. It is a crucial part in a marriage. Kindness, tenderness and solace and so many other nice feelings, all elements can benefit and improve your marriage relationship.

It is hard to imagine that a marriage without love. Needless to say, without love, a marriage relationship would be meaningless and purposeless. You wouldn't know what your life is all about and whom you are living for, to marry a person without love. If you want to develop a capability to love, the first step is to learn how to love yourself.

How does self-love help a marriage? When you love yourself and your partner, you tend to change your attitudes and approach. There are certain abilities involved in the love you extend to your partner: You would listen to him without judgment, you would recognize his emotions and needs, you would freely express your feelings without fear or reservation, you would take his criticisms in constructive ways, you would give him freedom to think and act in ways that does not harm your relationship in anyway.

When you are capable of showing the above qualities, a sense of deep intimacy is achieved between you and your husband. You might have conflicts, because no two people can live without differences. But these qualities will make both of you deal with conflicts in positive ways. You would handle your conflicts in a healthy way where you do not forego your own needs. This kind of freedom will build a stronger bond between the two of you. In fact conflicts make your relationship stronger than breaking it.

To love your spouse in good manners, you should do the following that helps to build your capability to love your spouse:

1. Take him as a separate human being with valid needs and emotions in life.

2.Respect his own opinions.

3. Be compassionate to your partner.

4.Be more understanding and accept that his views are important to him as much as your views are important to you.

5.In spite of differences of opinion just learn to agree to disagree.

6.Do not try to snatch his freedom.

7.Don't try to fight back in case he disagrees.

8.Do not be demand for his attention or love. This is hard because his love and attention means a lot to you. But love never comes on demand. Instead, be patient and loving and you will be returned with love.

9.To improve your relationship, do something for him and the only reason is that you love him.

A couple should treat each other with mutual respect and regard. Your policy should be that of give respect and take respect. If you do not respect your partner, how can you expect him to respect you? Mutual respect and regard would make the couple bond closer to each other. If you become aware and correct the above qualities you should be able to develop intimacy.

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